Although we know intellectually that everyone dies, we are always shocked when our loved one dies. Suddenly, someone we love, someone who has been in our lives for a long time, maybe our entire lives, is gone, and the world looks and feels different. Grief is a normal process that happens to us as we move through the months following a significant loss, and it can help to have a safe place to talk about your shock, anger, and sadness. You may have unanswered questions about your loved one, your relationship with them, about their death, about God and what happens to us after we die, or about your own mortality. Grief and loss bring all these questions to the surface. People who love you may try to rush this process because they want you to feel better. Talking with a professional counselor enables you to process your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism.